Thursday, December 27, 2012

Feelings of Ingratitude.

Webster’s Dictionary defines “Ingratitude” as: “Forgetfulness of, or poor return for, kindness received.” It can also be defined as not appreciating or valuing what you have, or have been given. Unexpressed gratitude is also considered ingratitude.
In today’s fast-paced world, most people seem to not have time for thankfulness. Work, traffic, family, doctor appointments, and countless other things are their main priorities.
They seem to have no time to thank others or count their many blessings in their lives.
We live in one of the most abundantly blessed lands in the world. Our country enjoys plentiful food, shelter, electricity, running water, wealth, air conditioning, heating, transportation, sanitation, and many other blessings.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our day to day lives and we simply forget or do not
acknowledge that EVERYTHING we have is from Heavenly Father.
I would love to share my personal experience...
Just a few days ago I found myself repenting and ask my Heavenly Father for forgiveness.
Last Monday we moved into our new house.
You can see the story on how we got this house HERE
We spent hours and hours packing, moving, unpacking, organizing, and trying to get things just where we wanted them.
It was pretty stressful especially moving and unpacking just a week before Christmas.
Amisdt all the unpacking and organizing, I found myself starting to experience a lot of feelings of ingratitude and I didn't even realize that I was doing it until I stopped to correct myself and then felt horrible because I knew this was a HUGE blessing from God for us to be able to get out of our apartment lease and find this home at the perfect time.
On some Saturdays I work Photo Booth.
Most of the parties that we do are in Scottsdale. With it being December we have booked
alot of Holiday parties. You walk into some of these homes that have been professionally decorated, super organized, spotless, or the wife is super talented and crafty and decorated the home herself.
It's the same thing you see on some of the blogs or on Pinterest. These picture perfect homes that some people have and you begin to feel a little low and a little envious of what they have or what their home looks like.  This is where the comparing starts and once it starts you have to stop it. Just simply stop it. Otherwise it will get a lot worse.
I started comparing and saying "I wish we" this and " I wish we" that. I simply had to stop myself, control my feelings and look around and think of all the many many blessings that God has given us. After pondering, praying and repenting I felt a huge weight lifted of my shoulders. I have also made a promise to myself to thank God even more at the end of each day.
Have you experienced feelings or are you experiencing feelings of ingratitude?
Although it is a part of our human nature, there are some ways to that we can avoid these feelings of ingratitude.

1. Thank God Daily
God commands us to go to Him in prayer with praise and thanksgiving. Do you thank Him daily?
The are many scriptures with examples of God’s servants showing their gratitude towards Him.
I Chronicles 29 records King David being deeply moved at the people’s generosity in preparing God’s Temple. David was inspired and expressed his earnest and sincere gratitude in honor of the great God. He exclaimed: “Blessed be You, Lord God of Israel our father, forever and ever. Yours, O Lord, is the greatness, and the power, and the glory, and the victory, and the majesty: for all that is in the heaven and in the earth is Yours; Yours is the kingdom, O Lord, and You are exalted as head above all. Both riches and honor come of You, and You reign over all; and in Your hand is power and might; and in Your hand it is to make great, and to give strength unto all. Now therefore, our God, we thank You, and praise Your glorious name. But who am I, and what is my people, that we should be able to offer so willingly after this sort? For all things come of You, and of Your own have we given You”
Paul writes, “Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In every thing give thanks” (I Thes. 5:16-18).
Psalm 92 records a special Sabbath psalm used to praise God: “It is a good thing to give thanks unto the Lord, and to sing praises unto Your name, O most High: to show forth Your lovingkindness in the morning, and Your faithfulness every night…For You, Lord, have made me glad through Your work: I will triumph in the works of Your hands. O Lord, how great are Your works! And Your thoughts are very deep…You, Lord, are most High forevermore. For, lo, Your enemies, O Lord, for, lo, Your enemies shall perish; all the workers of iniquity shall be scattered”
You should never run out of things to thank God for! Go to Him in prayer and continually thank Him for all the blessings He has provided you!
2. Tithes and OfferingsAnother vital way to demonstrate gratitude towards the great God is through tithes and offerings. The prophet Malachi records God’s words: “Will a man rob God? Yet you have robbed Me. But you say, Wherein have we robbed You? In tithes and offerings. You are cursed with a curse: for you have robbed Me, even this whole nation. Bring you all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in Mine house, and prove Me now herewith, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it” (Mal. 3:8-10).
Although God provides absolutely everything that we have, He promises to provide more—through pouring out blessings from heaven—if we merely do our part by paying tithes and offerings! Through our heartfelt dedication in supporting His end-time Work, He promises us much more than we can possibly desire!

3. Serve Others
I have always realized that there are many out there in today's world that are a lot less fortunate that we are. For Christmas Josh's family picks a family in need to help out.
The family that we served this year was so sweet. The father of the family had lost his job and they had to sell most of their things to pay bills. They moved into an apartment with their 3 boys (2,4, and 6) with literally a few trash bags full of clothes, a bed and a couch.
They literally had nothing. We all showed up at their doorstep (all 39 of us) with clothes, toys, household items, food, etc. The look on their faces was priceless. One we will all never forget. When you serve others you forget about yourself and your own trials.

4. Say "Thank You" More
 Many people fear thanking others. They often fall into the mentality that, by thanking, they are somehow in debt or owe something to that person. But the truth is far from this!
Throughout history, great men have been known for specifically thanking others. It is not a sign of weakness—it is a sign of meekness!
Think of the things that people do for you—from opening a door for you, to giving you a ride to the store, or providing a kind and reassuring word. We live in an age when common courtesy and politeness are all but extinct.
Say “thank you” and “please” often. You should never run out of people to thank. You would be surprised how happy those little words can make others feel!
5. Count Your Blessings, Not Your Worries Look around you. When was the last time you lost a loved one to starvation or rampant disease? When was the last time you gave up eating to make sure your children had food? When was the last time you had to sell your children because you did not have the money to survive or even provide for them? Chances are you have never experienced these things. Unfortunately, these are grim realities that many around the world face each day. Thank God each day for all the terrible things that you have not had to endure!  I have started a Gratitude journal. Every night I record  the things that come to my mind that I was grateful for that day. It really puts things into perspective and it's nice to be able to flip a few pages back and see what I wrote days, weeks or the months before.
6. Everything Happens For a Reason
It is so easy to fall into the routine of constant “grumbling” and complaining about problems and worries. When you find yourself complaining about finances, traffic, problems at work, family issues, car troubles, or whatever other difficulty or trial you may be experiencing, remember that everything God does and allows is for a reason. Although difficult, it is for a greater good—if you overcome them!
Consider the following analogy that I have heard a few times.... Each ingredient used in making a cake is not always sweet or good to the taste. By themselves, their tastes can range from bitter, to salty, to sweet, to chalky. But the end result—the cake—is delicious and sweet!
King Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived, recorded, “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven” (Ecc. 3:1).
Although it is difficult to do, when you are experiencing trials, look for the good that God wants you to learn from them. For example, if you are having car problems, and will need an expensive repair, perhaps you are mishandling, or wasting money on other things, and God wants you to re-examine your budget. Many of the difficulties that you encounter can help you realize whether or not you are living properly. You can learn from these experiences!
When people grumble, they are complaining about a situation that God has allowed—and sometimes even caused—them to be in!
Paul admonishes us to “Do all things without murmurings and disputings: that you may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom you shine as lights in the world” (Phil. 2:14-15). Remember Paul’s three commands:
(1) “Rejoice evermore.” (2) “Pray without ceasing.” (3) “In everything give thanks.

Today think or write down all the many things that you should be grateful for in your life.

Have a blessed day!!

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At December 27, 2012 at 3:15 PM , Blogger Heather Burris said...

Kimberly--Love your blog!
And thanks for the's so easy to forget all that we have to be thankful for.
(P.S. Has anyone told you that you look like Kate Middleton? I mean, the hair is uncanny)

At December 27, 2012 at 4:54 PM , Blogger Kimberly Bonham said...

Thank you so much Heather. Love yours also!
It really is. Its always good sometimes to take a step back and see the picture picture.

YES!! ALL the time!! Thank you ;)

At December 27, 2012 at 11:09 PM , Blogger Alexis said...

My heart so needed this tonight. Everything you described are feelings that I have had a really hard time put into words.
Sweet sweet reminder. Thank you!


At December 28, 2012 at 7:14 AM , Blogger Kimberly Bonham said...

Thank you for stopping by and commenting on my blog. I am so glad that it's just what you needed to hear. This is what I want the purpose of my blog to be. To comfort, lift up and console others. Hang in there girly. My biggest advice is to pray pray pray pray.


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